Last weekend, my Queen and I had a weekend to ourselves. It was a great weekend that featured some punishment for me, some wild and exciting sex, and a lot of orgasms for my Queen. We watched some movies together, went for a couple of walks, had dinner out on one night–and got all our housework and errands done! In short, it doesn’t get much better.
At one point, she was fully satisfied with our lovemaking and decided we were done! I, of course, was dismayed to be stopping, but I have given my wife total control over our sex life so I stopped–it did take Angus quite a while to soften up though. lol As she dressed, she commented that she didn’t understand why more women wouldn’t want to have total control over sex. She finds she is hornier than ever but doesn’t feel the pressure to “perform” or to do what she isn’t in the mood to do. Being in charge allows her to indulge in quickies or marathon sessions of love-making as she needs or wants. She decides–I merely go with the flow. The freedom of total control and choice is an aphrodisiac for her. And denying me is getting easier and easier to do. I think she was guilty at the beginning. Now however she is enjoying the urgency and obvious desire that I display when given the chance to make any sort of love. My ardour and sheer hunger for her turns her on. Angus jumps to attention (or tries to) with the tiniest of encouragements from my Queen and that sense of guilt seems to be gone. My desire is also a turn-on for her. She has said that I won’t cum again this year, and while I didn’t believe her initially, I now think it is a possibility. After all it’s been 90 days today (another new record) and nothing has changed. Only 269 days to get to January 1st.
There is more than volcanic sex to any good relationship. Great sex is definitely one way to bring two people together, but if that’s all there is, the relationship will not last. I’ve said it before, but communication is key! Open, truthful, and trusting communication. This is not always easy and at some times, it is downright difficult. It means that both partners have to be willing to be vulnerable with each other. But that ultimate trust in another person is the biggest way to bring two people together.
I wanted to try this chastity lifestyle. I wanted to wear a cage and be denied. I was terrified of how my wife might respond to hearing this. And yet I broached the topic with her and we tried it out. The first time was for 3.5 months. It was exciting for me, but not as great for my wife. Ultimately, we stopped for a bit, talked about the good, the bad, and the ugly, and finally returned to it last June. The keys there were that we talked about it. This time around, we are both enjoying the experience. Our contract has been extended twice–it now ends on January 31, 2018. I honestly believe it will be extended again–and again. We are both enjoying positive experiences living this way. I feel so close to my wife and she feels close to me.
Our communication has never been better and that is also in part due to the domestic discipline in our lives. I admit that I don’t enjoy the actual discipline. It’s weird, but I look forward to it, fantasize about it and get turned on both before and after experiencing it. The weird thing is that I hate it when it is happening. I just grit my teeth and try to outlast it. One of these days she’ll break the wooden spoon on me and I will proudly make a post showing the broken implement. This punishment process also seems to bring us together.
This brings us to the title of this post: Control and trusting enough to give that control away. I have willingly given my penis, erections, and orgasms to my wife to control as she sees fit. She named her penis Angus and uses it as she wishes. The only way I could do this was to trust her implicitly. I needed to know that she wouldn’t just lock me up and then throw away the key. I had to trust that she would tease me and keep me excited while still denying me orgasm. I have to trust that at some point she will allow me an orgasm. She had to trust that I would not do anything to undermine her authority. She had to trust that I would obey and follow her lead. Because I love my wife and because she loves me, we have tried this lifestyle. Because we communicate with and trust each other, the lifestyle is working for us. I highly recommend it. But if you like to orgasm frequently, it may not be for you! lol