I think of myself as a new blogger, though when I look at things, I realize I’ve been blogging since last July. I have met many very nice people–and the beauty of it is that most are kinky. Their kinks may be totally different from mine, but we learn from each other and share experiences and thoughts–I find it very valuable and sometimes very erotic! Now I like to participate in those blogs that I follow. I try to remain positive and upbeat, because the world has enough negativity, and honestly, I tend to be a positive and outgoing person. I recently had an experience on here that really bothered me–in fact it continues to bother me. I’ve thought about just trying to let it go and forget about it, but I want to write about it.
Some background: I have been on this earth for a while–most people are surprised at how old I am as I’m fit and pretty trim, still athletic and I have this youngish persona. Usually people guess I’m 10-15 years younger than I actually am. lol Still I’m actually quite close to retirement. I have three degrees–including two advanced degrees. My area of expertise is physiology–exercise physiology to be precise. I have a reasonable knowledge of the human body and what it is capable of. I don’t profess to know it all, nor to be always right, but I do know some stuff.
Recently, I commented on a post by someone I follow–my comment was a little tongue-in-cheek, and I used my phone which typically stops me from long comments. Basically she had stated in her post that men reach their sexual peak in their early 20’s while women hit theirs around 30. I argued against that. Now here’s why–biologically those facts may be true, but there is more than biology to sex, sexual appetite, and sexual skills. While I am monogamous, over my lifetime I have had several partners. It would seem to me that if you reach a peak, afterwards it’s all down hill. This may be true biologically, but from experience, I don’t think it’s necessarily true–particularly for females.
What is true is that I can no longer orgasm multiple times in a single session of love making (even if I were allowed…lol) When I was younger, I might orgasm as many as 8-10 times in a single session of lovemaking. At that time I was at my biological peak. I no longer have that ability. I am past my biological peak! However, my wife has told me several times in the past year that I’m like a “teenager”–her very words! She is alluding to my ability to go hard for a long time holding my erection–and not orgasming! Over the years, I have learned from my various lovers–I have learned techniques that allow me to please my Queen in many different ways. This has always been a goal of mine–to please my partner as fully and completely as I can. I’m still as horny–perhaps more so–than I was at 20. I still think of sex often–very often. Chastity helps me to have sex first and foremost in my mind. So while biologically I am past it, the remainder of my sexuality is at least allowing me to “hold my place”–I’m not on any decline yet.
For women, it’s even more of a misnomer. Every woman I’ve ever been with who is past the age of 30 has found that their desires are richer and more prominent in their lives. They are more orgasmic and often multi-orgasmic. My Queen never had an orgasm through sex prior to meeting me. Self stimulation was the way she had sexual pleasure prior to then. She did have several sexual partners prior to me, but while she enjoyed the intimacy of sexual contact with them, she never quite made it to “orgasm”. As she ages, she has become more easily aroused and pleased. It is not uncommon for her to have 5-10 orgasms in one session of lovemaking! Several of the women I follow have indicated that they are also more focused on sexual pleasure and more easily able to achieve orgasm even though they are past the age of 30. They state that sex is getting better and better! I couldn’t be happier for them. So again while biologically they may have reached a peak, their sexuality has not started to decline. Rather it has continued to get better.
So I choose to think of those ages of “peak” sexuality as bogus! It’s my view and I suppose the science doesn’t support my view. But thinking that my Queen is past it, or that I am past it is a negative thought and I choose to be positive!
So my short comment on this other blog was tongue in cheek when I argued against her position. Unfortunately, tone is not conveyed when we write. Someone (a follower of the other blog) read what I wrote and was offended by it–honestly that was a surprise, but perhaps she thought I was slagging women–though that was not even a small seed in my mind. I was attacked verbally by this person and the virulence and hatred that I felt directed at me was truly upsetting. I replied politely to this person trying to clarify my position further and received yet another hate filled response. In it I was told that I had changed my position–and I didn’t think I had. These two messages have really thrown me for a loop.
I have had to force myself to respond to other people’s blogs. I have rewritten my response to that post a hundred times. In the end, I have had to take the following stance. I don’t know the person who attacked me. Perhaps she had been having a really bad day. Perhaps there was something in my response that wasn’t well written–or that was written in such a way that multiple interpretations were possible. I will be far more careful when I respond to people now. I actually tried to go to their blog (the attacker’s) to apologize to them, but theirs is a private blog. Asking permission to access it seemed a bit much to even think of. I don’t want to follow them, I just wanted to try and clear the air.
I want to thank the actual owner of the blog I follow for her kind words and her apology. Those two simple messages to me were very much appreciated. She has removed the virulent messages and I also thank her for that. Her actions have shown her to be a person of character–and I’m so happy I found her blog. To the rest of you, I thank you for putting up with my rant here. I do feel better for writing this, but it isn’t my usual subject matter.
Miscellaneous Stuff: Today marks 153 days since my last orgasm. Only 213 days to go before I might get to cum (that date, January 7, 2018)!
Tuesday marked the end of my first year of this contract. It doesn’t expire until the end of January in 2018–and I hope to have it extended long before then.
Monday I took the day off work. I will be writing about that exceptional day sometime soon! But I will say that it was a day that furthered my frustration levels!