Conduct Unbecoming—or Pissing Off My Queen!

Despite my best efforts I will occasionally piss off my Queen. I do the male thing and the female interpretation results in my visitation to the dog house!!

My father and a mutual friend were over visiting this week (Wednesday). As they were leaving, my Queen said a couple of things and I corrected her. I didn’t mean anything by it–it is behaviour I indulge in regularly at work with my colleagues! But it is behaviour I should not do with my Queen. We saw our guests out and then I was blasted. I hadn’t realized what I had done. It wasn’t my intention to belittle my Queen–I didn’t think I had, but that was her interpretation. Her interpretation is the only thing that matters.

The weather has been decidedly cold in the house since then. My punishment number rose by 80. I have apologized most sincerely and will be trying never to do this again. But I went 36 hours without a hug. And while we cuddled this morning, the cool air seemed to return as she got up.

I think this is such an issue for her because of all the abuse her ex-husband gave her for so many years. I need to do much better. I didn’t sleep very well Wednesday and Thursday nights. The hug helped and I slept better last night. But I miss my Love. I hate feeling so alone and isolated.

I will get out of the doghouse, though I’m not sure when. Hopefully today! I’m so glad we fight or have disagreements so infrequently. I go through hell every time we do.

Ultimately I didn’t show my Queen the respect I promised her. This hurt her which is another thing I should never do. What’s that saying: Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus! I have to go to Venus and learn to fit in there.

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  1. HD has the same habit. He doesn’t mean anything negative, it’s just how he sees things, and it’s something that gets under my skin and (depending on the circumstances) I find hurtful. I thought it was because of him being neuro-atypical, but perhaps it’s just a male thing? We talk about it, he’s been working hard to keep from doing it. Hopefully you can get her to realize that you truly are sorry and you’re working to prevent it happening again.

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  2. It’s good you understand that you did a ‘not so good thing’ by correcting her in public. As you mentioned in the blog she has undergone an abusive relationship in the past, this may have worked as a trigger and brought back unpleasant memories. Being a victim of emotional abuse myself from my mom and my ex I can relate to her. Thank God my mom does not do this often, but my ex was horrible, he used to fucking correct me during sex too, considering he was a two minute kinda guy. All I can say is action speaks louder than words, do something for her that she likes, that will make her happy and once you get her in the comfort zone apologise to her (don’t verbally promise her that it won’t happen again, but make sure it DOES NOT HAPPEN AGAIN).

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  3. Hi Michael, thanks for sharing with us.
    I hope you can make it up to Her sometime soon, sometimes we just need our space when we get hurt by our man. Keep doing as many sweet things as you can, be even more tender to Her, and every so often tell Her how much you love Her and need Her.
    D

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