In earlier posts, I’ve talked about how we started down this path. How despite my fears of being refused, I asked my Queen to cage me and control our sex life. How later I asked that she become the lead in our life–putting us into an FLR! Over time our FLR relationship has grown and developed! But it is based in reality. We have jobs to go to. We own a home and need to maintain it. We have children–though some are out on their own. We have family we support and interact with. The point being, we have full lives we engage in every day! So while I’m living as a caged male every day, sex and our FLR are not always first and foremost in my mind! Honestly the cage is pretty comfortable most of the time. So I sometimes forget about its presence.
And yet the fantasy of the caged male persists. In general I think it’s fair to say many men ask for this way of living and then push their “key holder” to do things to fit their fantasy of being caged! While I know some women really like caging their males, I think it is an acquired taste for most. And I would guess a great deal of the women who cage their males do it solely because they love them and want to please them.
There is nothing wrong with that. But some males want a specific whole fantasy. There are different types of male chastity fantasies. Some fantasies involve feminization of the male. Some involve never having sex again. Others suggest the male will do anything to “get off”–including all the housework (in addition to their day jobs) and turning over all their money and property to their key holder. Some involve being cuckolded. The fantasy really can cover almost anything as there are so many people and likely no two have the exact same fantasies.
Still these fantasies are usually why the man has asked his wife to cage him. They want their wives to live the fantasy exactly as they imagine it. This doesn’t take into account the fact that their wives may not have any of these fantasies or indeed may have totally different fantasies!
So now the wife is responsible for caging a man and controlling any sex they get along with making the man’s fantasies come true. And she may very well hate the fantasies! How can this work for a long time? In reality it can’t.
I think couples who are successfully living this lifestyle have moved slowly (progressively) taking into consideration both spouses’ needs. A lot of communication and honesty fuel the progression. Both people need to have their wants and desires respected.
I am living my dream. Are things perfect? No. I would like to be teased more frequently and I’m sure there are things my Queen would love me to do more of. But we are getting better at what we do. She is getting better at telling me to do certain things that she wants me to do. She is getting better at generating rules. I wouldn’t want to be anywhere or with anyone else. I try and follow my Queen’s rules. I try and do whatever she asks of me when she asks as well as to the best of my abilities. How we live works for us. But under no circumstances would I ever suggest ours is the only and “right” way of living this life. Some couples love the feminization aspect while other love the cuckold or hot wife lifestyle. Whatever works without hurting anyone is a good thing. But in the meantime, I’m happy as a pig in s@&t!!😜