Music as Muse

Mrs. Fever of Temperature’s Rising has a new theme for the month of September. I’m not really good at these things, but I’m going to try and do a few this month.  The beauty of this theme is that you can do one or 30 posts…so there is no feeling of failure if you only do one or two…

Escape

Escape (The Piña Colada Song)

Rupert Holmes

I was tired of my lady, we’d been together too long
Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song
So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed
And in the personals column, there was this letter I read

“If you like Piña Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
If you’re not into yoga, if you have half a brain
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
I’m the love that you’ve looked for, write to me, and escape”

I didn’t think about my lady, I know that sounds kind of mean
But me and my old lady, had fallen into the same old dull routine
So I wrote to the paper, took out a personal ad
And though I’m nobody’s poet, I thought it wasn’t half bad

“Yes, I like Piña Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
I’m not much into health food, I am into champagne
I’ve got to meet you by tomorrow noon, and cut through all this red tape
At a bar called O’Malley’s, where we’ll plan our escape”

So I waited with high hopes, then she walked in the place
I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face
It was my own lovely lady, and she said, “Oh, it’s you”
And we laughed for a moment, and I said, “I never knew”

“That you liked Piña Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape
You’re the lady that I’ve looked for, come with me, and escape”

“If you like Piña Coladas, and getting caught in the rain
If you’re not into yoga, if you have half a brain
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape

This is a song I’ve always liked.  I hadn’t heard it in years, and then a couple of days ago it played on the radio.  Immediately I thought this is a great song for Mrs. Fever’s theme.  It’s a romantic song in many ways but it showcases the difficulties we all seem to have in our relationships.  I’ve spoken of it before, but this song really brings it into focus–and that difficulty is communication!

In this song, the singer is talking about how his relationship is getting old.  How he and his lover are drifting apart.  And this is something I see all the time with co-workers,friends and indeed myself (in my first marriage).  And it happens because of a lack of communication.  That’s what I love about this song.  Both people in the couple place an ad telling something about themselves to the world.  And when they meet they realize that they didn’t know these things about each other.  And it sparks their relationship again.

That’s really one of the strengths of D/s relationships.  I find my Queen and I are very open with each other.  Our vulnerability and open communication brings us closer together.  When I hear my colleagues or friends speak about their wives, I am sometimes upset at how they talk.  They aren’t necessarily happy, but rather than work things through with their wives, they complain to others and avoid their women.  There is a distinct lack of communication between them.  I feel bad for my friends and I feel bad for their wives.  Honesty and vulnerability would help to break down the barriers between them.

September Song Project copyright mrsfever.com

Feve’s September Song Project

12 comments

  1. I love this song! Fabulous choice to be included in Mrs Fever’s musical adventure. I’m excited to see the other wongs folks include in their posts and how. Seems like so far we’re all off to a grand start 🙂

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    • I like this song too. 🙂

      There are so many assumptions made between two people — perhaps especially people in long-term relationships — that even though they *think* they know one another inside and out, they don’t actually know each other at all.

      I agree with you that communication is key. But if people in general were any good at communication, there would be no need to have to say things like “Communication is key!” 😉

      Communication takes patience and practice, and to share things about yourself in a vulnerable, open way is HARD. Especially when you have to put aside your assumptions and actually *listen* rather than putting your own spin on what’s being said.

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  2. Oh I love this song – i started singing away at the first line and the thing bout it is the story it weaves – and I am very happy for you about the open communication with your wife. My man and I do try but both are a little explosive at times when stressed – which does not help. We know we need to address that thou – which is important 😉

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  3. Great post, michael! You make an excellent point about communication and about vulnerability. Many long-time couples seems to put up this wall between themselves and the very person that they should be sharing the deepest parts of themselves with, are the ones that they seem to hide from. I think resentments and unmet expectations lead to the buildings of these walls…and they are so hard to tear down.
    Thank you for sharing this! Hope you and your Queen are as fabulous as ever ❤

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    • It’s so easy to build walls! To hide parts of yourself from your partner! It’s far more difficult to open up and risk condemnation or ridicule. But if you have a good relationship, then condemnation or ridicule is not very likely to happen. And if your relationship has become weakened, you start small and slowly rebuild. You rebuild until you can drop the big bombs and they will be taken in stride. Thanks Nora!

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