I’ve read a lot of posts lately where people are talking about things that make them feel submissive; about how they reach sub space! Now I’m coming at this from a male perspective. In my day to day life away from my Queen, I am an alpha male. I run a dept. I am not shy about sharing ideas nor about arguing their merits. The only time I am submissive is when I’m with my Queen. But sometimes coming home from work it may take a bit for me to return to the submissive state. How can/does my Queen help me get there?
For me, the best way to return to the submissive mind space is to perform a service for my Queen! So I will often look to do something for her unbidden by her. She may say something–really more of a comment to herself, and I will act on it.
If she tells me to do something then I am there! If she asks me to do something I will get there but the process is slower!
And there’s the crux! My Queen is a very nice person. She is kind and generous. She often feels like a bitch when she is firm or “mean” to me. So sometimes she asks me to do thing nicely. I will comply, but I’d rather she was more brusque and demanding. When she’s in the mood she will be demanding and that really makes me feel submissive. I am particularly put in the mood if she adds a modicum of embarrassment to the command. So if she tells me to clean something and then orders me to do it naked I am so “there”…
I get that she doesn’t want to speak to me in such a manner when our families and friends are around. But I’d love for her to do it more frequently when we’re alone. I don’t mind if she does it in front of strangers–in fact that would add to my feelings of submission.
Following her rules also helps to put me there. Getting caught breaking a rule and the assignment and carrying out of the punishments help my submission. I don’t actually like pain, but strangely, it excites me to know it’s coming from my Queen and it’s because I broke her rules. I know… Weird!!
So in a nutshell, my submission is fed by my Queen. The cage also helps. Being unable to erect and wearing it at work is a constant reminder of my Queen. It all comes from her!
On the chastity side of things, we are once again having regular sex. Yesterday I pounded her without any problem and for the first time since her surgery, she actually squirted. She actually rode me as well and then rode me using the PalmPower vibrator. After she is completely satisfied (and Kitty was feeling a wee bit tender) she set about teasing me. She decided to use the new toy as well as her hands. She likes me to finish at the very edge… lol
We have a toy from BestVibe to test and review, so yesterday we gave it a try. Can’t review it yet, but we’ll try it again a few times and then review it. It is the toy my Queen is using on Angus! I’m now 279 days since my last orgasm (9 months and 4 days). She seems quite content to let me go a while longer… lol