This is a topic that has been making the rounds. No doubt a meme or topic suggested by some clever person. I’m not good with memes. Linking up to others etc. But I wanted to share my thoughts on this. Codependency is often thought of as a negative quality. This is because in our society today we value independence. We push our kids to become more independent. It’s a sign of growing up.
Now I am more than capable of surviving –perhaps even thriving on my own. But I am happier with my Queen. We spend a lot of time together. We laugh, cook, clean, workout, watch TV–in fact we do virtually everything together. Personally doing things with my Queen is natural and just seems “right”.
When we face tough times, we support and calm each other down. We provide encouragement to each other. We do things for each other–some of these are little things just to show we are thinking about the other while some are done to ease the others life and make a day easier. Still other things might be romantic gestures designed to make the other feel better.
My Queen accepted our lifestyle of an FLR originally because of my request and fantasies. We had been living more or less in one anyways. But she tried it because of my request. Now I’m not sure we could go back to the way it was, but to make what we have work, we each have to depend on the other.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that we depend on each other for all of life’s benefits. And we support each other in all of life’s trials. While apart we are still strong, when we are together we are stronger still. That’s what codependency means for me. It isn’t a weakness or a problem. It’s an indication of strength. I guess the difference between us or the perception of codependency in the general public is that we can do well on our own–we just choose not to.