This is an obituary–sort of. Some time ago I started to follow a man. He was a widower and lived in New Zealand–though I didn’t know his location at the time. He had a lack of confidence in himself sexually and was seeing a therapist to learn how to be better. I enjoyed his posts–his honesty and his (dare I say it) innocence. As time went on he introduced me to a neighbour. She was also a widow and was a young 80 years old. He told us in his charming way about how his friendship with her gradually became more than that. We learned about her life and how she had been in a marriage without love, sex or passion. This man awakened her. He gave her passion and he gave her love. He also awoke her sexuality. They started to blog together! Reading their posts was so much fun as they grew together and their love blossomed. It was like reading a feel good movie. Then a drop of darkness. She had the onset of dementia. Over time there was some good news as the dementia wasn’t as serious as they had feared. Meanwhile they were living life large! Each was smitten with the other. I spoke about possibly meeting them in time–hoping that I could get to their lovely country while she was still “together”. She told me not to wait too long.
Unfortunately I have. The couple I’m speaking of were known here as Rex and Naomi. Naomi has a mishap in May that seemed relatively minor. She was in the hospital for a short time, but was released and was expected to be fine. However she passed away shortly thereafter. I’m grateful to Rex who let me know. I know how heart broken he was. And he has stopped blogging.
Their story was a great love story. I was so happy for the two of them. They discovered each other and had a vibrant sex life despite what some people would say was advanced age! Naomi showed me the joy of life. In some respects she was very innocent. In others she was wise and worldly. She showed her wonder at experiencing passion and real love after 80 years of life. I did have correspondence with her and found her to be a very kind woman. She was gentle and shy. But she was also very adventurous and willing to try almost anything. She had a smile that lit up the space around her. From what I know, she made others feel good. I had hoped that she and Rex would have several years together but alas it was not to be. I miss Naomi. I miss Rex.
I never met either of them in person, but I did come to know them–and felt like they were my friends. Life is not always good. Bad things happen. But I wanted to say how Naomi and Rex had a positive effect on my life. I wanted to say that I miss them. I wanted to say how sad this news made me feel. Rest In Peace Dear Naomi. Stay strong Rex!